There are, and will always be people who stay married even though they've given up on each other.
When one feels lonely, where is the other? When life goes on individually, what is marriage?
One has an exciting life, the other waiting for the one with exciting life to be back each day. The one with exciting life can never understand why someone has to be angry everyday. He CAN'T SEE.
Many times, a wife wants to tell her hubby things. Things she observed about baby, things she finds on the NET. By the time he gets home, she has nothing left to tell him. Why so?
She thought he worked shift but she realised it's irregular shift he meant. He only gets to know the day before, at 9pm, right before they tuck in, if there's a change in the time he reports for work the next day.
Not only are there farewells, there is soccer games everyweek. He feels obliged to join coz he's been missing the informal gathering coz of those farewell dnrs previously. He asked if she wanted to join them. She said "ok". Yet the moment he got home, he went to the toilet, came out and then told her "bye, I'm going now". He tried his best. At least he asked, even if he didn't hear what her answer was.
He feels obliged to stay back to work coz the boss is still around, and the men are still around. He feels obliged to stay till the whole world has gone home.
It's takes 26mins to reach home. He takes an hour. And sometimes, till sandstorm comes and everyone else has to travel at 20mph.
She calls him in the office when she needs to ask him anything. He's always having briefings. If you think she bombs his phone everyday, think again. She calls in the evenings to ask if he's going to be home anytime soon so that she can prepare dinner to serve him hot and nice the moment he steps in. He will always be at least half an hour later than the time he says he'll be home. Can't he predict if he will be able to leave in the next half an hour? She's not asking him to tell her what time he will be back before the day starts you know?
He doesn't call to let her know, even if he has to stay in till late. He doesn't call the whole day. He's dedicated to work. When she calls, it's coz "the wife is angry again."
And work, he's dedicated to. Calls come in when he gets home. Calls come in from his cellphone, and at home from overseas. She tries talking, only to get her sentence interrupted by these $%&%^#$@!%#^$& equipments. What was she going to tell him? Nothing more important than what these people have to tell him.
She asked him where someone stays, coz she had something to get someone to pass to a friend back in sgp. He told her Sembawang, and then Tampines. And the last thing she heard, NOT from the hubby whom she's been asking, that the person doesn't seem to stay in either estates. He could have told her "I don't know" or "I'll find out" but he chose to brush her off with any answer that came to mind. She told him what she found out and his answer was, "is it?" Sad right?
Once upon a time, this same person told her that it's better to be here than back home. There is to be more family time and no one will keep calling after work. That person's words cannot be taken for real.
She gets to tell him less than what she posts on the blog. Irony is, the hubby hears more from her about life, and how baby grows, from the blog like her readers & friends do. On a positive note, they talk more during weekends, if that helps. But communication goes beyond just speaking english or mandarin to each other isn't it?
Not everyone is gifted to stay at home and wait. Wait and waste life away. She thinks she's sampled enough of waiting. She enjoys her time with the babies but until she can stop waiting for the hubby to return (until his presence is no longer important to her), she shld maybe consider leaving this position and get back to real life out there. Selfish thoughts huh? I think so too, but who cares, right?
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Ok, something happpy:
Maen is AN's poop detector. She will follow behind AN's butt and keep sniffing. That's her way of telling me: "Mummy, AN leaks again."
When one feels lonely, where is the other? When life goes on individually, what is marriage?
One has an exciting life, the other waiting for the one with exciting life to be back each day. The one with exciting life can never understand why someone has to be angry everyday. He CAN'T SEE.
Many times, a wife wants to tell her hubby things. Things she observed about baby, things she finds on the NET. By the time he gets home, she has nothing left to tell him. Why so?
She thought he worked shift but she realised it's irregular shift he meant. He only gets to know the day before, at 9pm, right before they tuck in, if there's a change in the time he reports for work the next day.
Not only are there farewells, there is soccer games everyweek. He feels obliged to join coz he's been missing the informal gathering coz of those farewell dnrs previously. He asked if she wanted to join them. She said "ok". Yet the moment he got home, he went to the toilet, came out and then told her "bye, I'm going now". He tried his best. At least he asked, even if he didn't hear what her answer was.
He feels obliged to stay back to work coz the boss is still around, and the men are still around. He feels obliged to stay till the whole world has gone home.
It's takes 26mins to reach home. He takes an hour. And sometimes, till sandstorm comes and everyone else has to travel at 20mph.
She calls him in the office when she needs to ask him anything. He's always having briefings. If you think she bombs his phone everyday, think again. She calls in the evenings to ask if he's going to be home anytime soon so that she can prepare dinner to serve him hot and nice the moment he steps in. He will always be at least half an hour later than the time he says he'll be home. Can't he predict if he will be able to leave in the next half an hour? She's not asking him to tell her what time he will be back before the day starts you know?
He doesn't call to let her know, even if he has to stay in till late. He doesn't call the whole day. He's dedicated to work. When she calls, it's coz "the wife is angry again."
And work, he's dedicated to. Calls come in when he gets home. Calls come in from his cellphone, and at home from overseas. She tries talking, only to get her sentence interrupted by these $%&%^#$@!%#^$& equipments. What was she going to tell him? Nothing more important than what these people have to tell him.
She asked him where someone stays, coz she had something to get someone to pass to a friend back in sgp. He told her Sembawang, and then Tampines. And the last thing she heard, NOT from the hubby whom she's been asking, that the person doesn't seem to stay in either estates. He could have told her "I don't know" or "I'll find out" but he chose to brush her off with any answer that came to mind. She told him what she found out and his answer was, "is it?" Sad right?
Once upon a time, this same person told her that it's better to be here than back home. There is to be more family time and no one will keep calling after work. That person's words cannot be taken for real.
She gets to tell him less than what she posts on the blog. Irony is, the hubby hears more from her about life, and how baby grows, from the blog like her readers & friends do. On a positive note, they talk more during weekends, if that helps. But communication goes beyond just speaking english or mandarin to each other isn't it?
Not everyone is gifted to stay at home and wait. Wait and waste life away. She thinks she's sampled enough of waiting. She enjoys her time with the babies but until she can stop waiting for the hubby to return (until his presence is no longer important to her), she shld maybe consider leaving this position and get back to real life out there. Selfish thoughts huh? I think so too, but who cares, right?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Ok, something happpy:
Maen is AN's poop detector. She will follow behind AN's butt and keep sniffing. That's her way of telling me: "Mummy, AN leaks again."
2 comments:
after reading ur post, I feel the same sentiments as you...henry also like tat, occupied with his work and dinner appts...got used to it and I have grown independent actually, and its a good thing though...spend some time doing things tat u enjoy and ask him to help u bbsit AN while u do your work...hee
I can't do what I like coz AN is getting increasingly attention :( The next best thing I am doing now that makes me happy is shop online. I can't meet friends like in Singapore :(
When wkends comes, sometimes I just shut off and spent a few hrs straight online and he will take care of AN but still AN will want my attention when she's sleepy or just wants to suckle. Not to forget I still have to prepare for her meals and bath etc. Not that I'm not happy tat she needs me...guess she needs me too much that Mr Liow gets to be free and I'm jealous of it sometimes. His absence just makes it worse...hee.
Thanks for replying. hee. I feel better alry. Thanks so much :)
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