We had a gathering at Mr Liow's encik's home last Saturday and AN was asleep when we reached. AN is a very light sleeper so as more people came, noise level rose and she woke up feeling 'disturbed'.
One of the visitors (another of MR Liow's colleague) brought his 9mths old son and some toys for his son to play with. He has an elder daughter who helps his wife take care of his son while he mingled around with the rest of the guys.
The boy was so cheery and didn't really need the toys. He had other kids carry him around and was giggling.
AN on the other hand was more aloof. She was walking around, exploring things (checking out the TV and other appliances, and everything else that she can see) and people watching. When people notice her and wants to play with her, she runs away.
The boy's mum offered AN a toy which AN took without saying thanks (hehe. She can say 'gangoo' sometimes). She brought the toy everywhere with her while she walked around and I tried to bring her back to where the boy is so that you know, they can probably play together or something.
An just wasn't interested, till she saw another toy lying near the boy. She went over and took it without asking (hmm....ok she doesn't know how to ask yet). The boy's mum gernerously pushed the toy to AN which AN, again, gladly took. And then she reached out for the 1st toy she had and wanted to leave.
The boy stretched out to take one of the toys which AN actually snatched from his hands! Oh no!!
The boy's mum said it's ok and said it was the same with her elder daughter when she had no companion to play with her, or learn to share toys with.
For the 1st time I see it's a NEED to socialise AN. Back in Singapore, we had ministry meetings, girls' gatherings and all, that we could bring AN out to meet people. Here, other than weekend outings, we hardly meet anyone else!
Mr Liow's encik's wife (the one who lives near us) and her kids came over last evening to play with AN (hehe. the girls were more interested in BM). This time, AN was better behaved.
She was, to my surprise, very sociable and seemed happy to have the 'jie jies' come over. She walked over to her toy cabinet, opened up all the drawers and while pointing to the cabinet, said "see?" She then startedd to bring out all her toys and pushed them to the girls (they are big girls alry, and not interested in her toys. hehe).
The encik's wife commented that it's rare to see toddlers push toys to visitors. Most are possessive over their own toys. I told her that it wasn't the case last Saturday with AN. She was the possessive one like she said.
AN's probably still not beyond cure but yes, there's a need for her to meet people and learn social skills.
Sometimes I feel that having just a child is enough. I can't bear to have to divide my attention (don't forget, she's the 3rd baby in the family, with B and M as the 1st 2). This time I'm convinced that it'll definately be to her benefit to have another human company to play with, and learn from).
She learns a lot from BM. Sometimes she observes Maen bark and then lets out a bark or 2 of her own -_____-". She goes on her knees to crawl into the kitchen at times, when BM follows me in. And she squeezes her little body into the little space between Baileys and Maen on their bed while waiting for me to finish washing dishes.
It's good that she learns about dogs and I am happy to see her increasingly understanding what NOT to do to BM and doesn't do it. hehe. It's not very normal tho, that she behaves like them. Yet they are her 'models' day in and out.
Will get my license 1st, then practice till I am a confident driver before I enroll her in some play group for her to mix around with other kids. Else it's so unhealthy for a growing baby to be cooped up with only us, her family to socialise with. Wonder if she'll become autistic at this rate we are going...
:(
One of the visitors (another of MR Liow's colleague) brought his 9mths old son and some toys for his son to play with. He has an elder daughter who helps his wife take care of his son while he mingled around with the rest of the guys.
The boy was so cheery and didn't really need the toys. He had other kids carry him around and was giggling.
AN on the other hand was more aloof. She was walking around, exploring things (checking out the TV and other appliances, and everything else that she can see) and people watching. When people notice her and wants to play with her, she runs away.
The boy's mum offered AN a toy which AN took without saying thanks (hehe. She can say 'gangoo' sometimes). She brought the toy everywhere with her while she walked around and I tried to bring her back to where the boy is so that you know, they can probably play together or something.
An just wasn't interested, till she saw another toy lying near the boy. She went over and took it without asking (hmm....ok she doesn't know how to ask yet). The boy's mum gernerously pushed the toy to AN which AN, again, gladly took. And then she reached out for the 1st toy she had and wanted to leave.
The boy stretched out to take one of the toys which AN actually snatched from his hands! Oh no!!
The boy's mum said it's ok and said it was the same with her elder daughter when she had no companion to play with her, or learn to share toys with.
For the 1st time I see it's a NEED to socialise AN. Back in Singapore, we had ministry meetings, girls' gatherings and all, that we could bring AN out to meet people. Here, other than weekend outings, we hardly meet anyone else!
Mr Liow's encik's wife (the one who lives near us) and her kids came over last evening to play with AN (hehe. the girls were more interested in BM). This time, AN was better behaved.
She was, to my surprise, very sociable and seemed happy to have the 'jie jies' come over. She walked over to her toy cabinet, opened up all the drawers and while pointing to the cabinet, said "see?" She then startedd to bring out all her toys and pushed them to the girls (they are big girls alry, and not interested in her toys. hehe).
The encik's wife commented that it's rare to see toddlers push toys to visitors. Most are possessive over their own toys. I told her that it wasn't the case last Saturday with AN. She was the possessive one like she said.
AN's probably still not beyond cure but yes, there's a need for her to meet people and learn social skills.
Sometimes I feel that having just a child is enough. I can't bear to have to divide my attention (don't forget, she's the 3rd baby in the family, with B and M as the 1st 2). This time I'm convinced that it'll definately be to her benefit to have another human company to play with, and learn from).
She learns a lot from BM. Sometimes she observes Maen bark and then lets out a bark or 2 of her own -_____-". She goes on her knees to crawl into the kitchen at times, when BM follows me in. And she squeezes her little body into the little space between Baileys and Maen on their bed while waiting for me to finish washing dishes.
It's good that she learns about dogs and I am happy to see her increasingly understanding what NOT to do to BM and doesn't do it. hehe. It's not very normal tho, that she behaves like them. Yet they are her 'models' day in and out.
Will get my license 1st, then practice till I am a confident driver before I enroll her in some play group for her to mix around with other kids. Else it's so unhealthy for a growing baby to be cooped up with only us, her family to socialise with. Wonder if she'll become autistic at this rate we are going...
:(
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